UNSPEAK

Do you ever feel that your life is full of words that you have said, spoken or written without fully understanding the consequences of what you have done? How often have you looked back at your life and thought to yourself….”I wish I had never said that”? Life is full of missed opportunities for unpeak.

Unspeak is the act of taking back your words of the previous minute, the previous day, week, month or year. In such a manner that you had never said those words, or written them in a letter, email or a text message. Whatsapp allows you an instant delete feature, but it does not allow unspeak. I think nature has been unfair to us by not awarding us the facility of unspeak.

Not sure whether you feel this way or not, but my life has been full of opportunities for unspeak. I remember writing love letters as a teenager, that I actually mailed (ahem, then it was snail mail), which I could never take back. Or, of saying I love you to someone and not meaning it. Of saying something hurtful to someone and not realising it till much later, when it was too late.

Is silence a better option than “speaking your mind” (which includes writing it too)? At least then the need for unspeak disappears. But is that not a cowardly way to live? I have said and written many things, some true, some not so true, that I wish I had not. I cannot take them back, and no amount of apologizing or retraction will make up for those blunders when they occurred. In a careless review of an employee’s performance, I once made a hurtful comment. The comment was not intended to be hurtful, but hurt it did. I was never able to convince that employee that I did not mean what I said.

“The truth shall set you free”. Who is the moron that said that? I do not think it is a valid saying. Saying nothing rather than saying something hurtful is preferable in my opinion. As often as not, when I have tried to be blunt and honest, that bluntness and honesty has risen and bitten me in the ass. That is when I have wished for the feature of unspeak.

Will science or technology or the newer AI and all its tools one day invent a way of creating unspeak, where something that you have written, spoken or messaged can be unspoken in a way that it not only disappears from its hard form, but also disappears from the eyes, ears and minds of the recipient of the original “speak” which necessitated the concept of “Unspeak”?

I want to hear from others if they have ever felt that unspeak is a desirable facility to have in one’s life. Do let me know what you feel. I am signing off in this post as……….

Mr Big Mouth

 

6 thoughts on “UNSPEAK

  1. OMG! I could so relate to this post, Rakesh Uncle. I’ve always been the one who’s been blunt and honest and it’s come to “bite me in the ass” πŸ€¦πŸ»β€β™€οΈ and yes, in the last few years I’ve wished I wouldn’t have said out loud certain things…. something’s that ended up hurting others, even though I didn’t mean too….and something that gave others the opportunity to hurt me.
    Learnt to control myself now, although the words sometimes still hang at the tip of my tongue πŸ˜€

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  2. I think it’s a hard toss up between speaking your mind (which can be so therapeutic) and staying silent. I think (and this is coming from somebody that sometimes speaks without thinking) that we need to understand the impact of the truths we speak. If the truth is going to result in a better way forward then it does indeed set you free. But some truths are not worth telling because they will cause more harm than good – they are not productive truths – just uncomfortable ones. I do believe in holding back a little bit when a truth is unproductive.

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    1. I have never understood, ever, when to keep my big mouth shut and when to open it. Sometimes I feel the person I am talking to you deserves the truth, no matter how tough. And they demand it. But the truth then rears its head and bites me in the ass again and again.

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